Humans are Cooked

Humans are cooked. Life is a gacha, and I think it’s super hard to ignore the fact that it’s impossible to face fate.

Introduction

Recently I’ve realized something important that has been bothering my life. Life is very very very skewed.

I’ve realized this after I saw one of the daughter of a popular celebrity actually getting cancelled in Twitter. I feel like this is a very common phenomenon because cancel culture is a thing, which i believe to validate someone or a certain group, towards a behavior that is wrong or uncommon for them.

Cancel culture is very important. And in some context, we call them social sanction. The good thing about this it is a reaction either can be rewarding or punishing and used to enforce a group norms and encourage compliance with a rules.

I understand that some people on Twitter trying to cancel her because of her opinions that she made on Instagram. I’ll try to read some of it. “Pagi hari beberapa teman menelephone aku”. Even in the first sentence is already very very weird. But then again, for me, I feel like opinions. Are weird. Because no matter how hard you’re trying to explain something. It’s not about the. How you’re trying to convey. But it’s the feeling that you put on it, and by feeling here it means. Which sides Are you standing with?

Everyone putting a blame on her on her opinion and how she writes, even though that has nothing to do with her argument. I would call this logical fallacy as ad hominem.

Then again. I’m not saying that she’s right. In my opinion. She is very, very wrong. Because why? Because. Public opinion, they. Tend to like when people. Put an empathy towards the greater groups. And that brings me into what I’m going to talk about today.

Life is a gacha system

I’m from Indonesia. I’ve been living almost. My entire life. As entire life, I mean the past 20 years, living in a life that I would say in the middle class, so. I live in a city called Sanggau, and. This place was not very entertainment heavy, so there is no shopping mall. Airport any big Plaza or brands? Actually, back in the day, the biggest thing that you can find here is Alfamart or indomaret And if I recall correctly, does. Shops don’t even appear before I was in my middle school. And when I’m studying middle school. It was about 2013..

After I moved to Jakarta when I study studying for my university for my undergraduate study. I find that life is like a Gacha system. There’s this like random element where circumstances, situation and where you start is like beyond your control.

Let’s take an example of like who our parents are or what society were born into. It will heavily influence our outcome.

Statistic wise. People will be born into the majority. That’s obvious, because majority is the largest group.

And by that reason, people would understand what others feel, what others experience during their lifetime. Unfortunately. There are some people in the groups that cannot even experience what it feels like to be normal.

Privileges and How to Avoid them?

Well, I have some friends. In Indonesian term we call them: “Tidak pernah napak tanah”.

This means that these people never touch grass, in a sense. Why? Because For the entire life, they’ve been living the happy life. They always had that good quality food, the perfect hygiene. The best place to visit when they’re on their holiday? The highest quality of entertainment. Good clothes, good friends. And their humor is very different.

Not even wanna say for people that’s been living outSIDE asia, food can get very expensive: a meal can costs up to 200.000 rupiah while in Indonesia, meal can costs as high as 50.000 rupiah and can go down to 15.000 rupiah. Even as affordable as 7.000 rupiah in some places.

Money, judges how someone acts and how it acts as an option maker. It’s something that definitely gives you a better option when picking life choices.

On the other hand, financial power is very different from level to level.

This, causes a blind spot

“How to avoid privilege?” isn’t really possible.

We can’t choose our starting stats, and it;s in human nature how raising standards means raising views and higher baselines.

A better question is, how to use the privilege responsibly.

Privilege is like advantages that lower everyday frictions, you won’t notice how level of time efficiency, risk, and stress differs from person to person, the thing about it: the higher you lower this thing, the baseline won’t be the same anymore when you’re on your normal stages. Pursuit of pleasure has a baseline, and you become more and more tolerance about good things that happen in your life.

This thing is called the hedonic treadmill or hedonic adaptation.

as comfort increases, your “normal” resets; you notice discomfort less and need more to feel “good,” which can make you less sensitive to others’ constraints.

Now, why people say eat the rich?

Because as the famous quoting says “Memang begitu anak orang kaya, lagunya suka tengil, kaya duit bapaknya halal aje”

Rasisme dan Stereotipe

Without any means of degrading any race, age, and religions, I’m uttering a neutral opinions of what happens in the society. In which, people often notices but avoids because it’s a sensitive issue that no one wants to talk about.

If we are talking about people who has the stereotype of unrelatability:

• Wearing good clothes and white-toned
• Tall
• Speaks “Formal Indonesian” and don’t like to reveal his/her indonesian identity
• When meeting fellow indonesian abroad, will “speak english”
• Doesn’t curse
• In some cases, chinese indonesians somehow have this traits, thus perceiving a heavy stereotype of chinese indonesians are rich, and annoying
• Have good gadgets, either good phone, macbook, laptop and everything
• Doesn’t like to split or share food
• Only drinks bottled water
• wearing good shoes
• High BMI
• Speaks stupidly and likes to overshare something they thought everyone can afford: either good place to visit, good food to eat, or good things to do
• Study in International School
• Have a private driver.
• LOW EQ and socially inept

One thing that is oftenly mistaken from these stereotypes:

Many traits get read as “unrelatable” or “sombong,” but they’re often just class‑coded habits, not character, and this, I feel is totally random from person to person. Because in reality, jumping between social classes is too hard.

Conclusion

I’m not here to tell you how to live. These are my biased observations, not heroes or villains.

I’m not giving you ANY recommendations on how to live this life. This opinions are very biased on my views of the society. Im not putting one side of a class as the enemy nor the good guy here.

I’m giving you something to ponder about. Life is a gacha. We don’t choose our first roll: parents, postcode, first chances. Privilege lowers frictions—time, risk, stress—so our baseline shifts.

That’s hedonic adaptation. And online, when someone messes up, we often punish fast and hard, without context or a path to repair.

And I also dont have enough power to shapes someone’s opinion and how to act in the society. But for me myself, I’ll always try to check something before reacting: what’s the harm, evidence, and most importantly how others would react on my opinion and will i hurt a side’s feeling.

If you were to “improve your life,” start with your own definitions. What does “better” mean to you? What did you inherit, and what’s actually in your control this week? What small friction could you reduce—without increasing someone else’s?

No answers today—just questions to sit with.